Dad passed away last month. I know that’s probably not the most graceful way to begin a post like this, but it matters. Because one of his greatest legacies to me was a single question he asked often: “Are you happy, Candis?” He started asking me in my mid-20s, when I think he suspected I…
For the longest time, I was kind of confused about this whole question of “Do I love myself?” Like, I didn’t hate myself. I thought I loved myself. But at the same time, I wasn’t totally sure. I’d hear people say things like, “If you loved yourself, you’d never let someone treat you like that,”…
A couple of months ago, a local South Beach woman reached out to me for life coaching. We’d met through a mutual friend and, over a cocktail or two, swapped dating stories. She’d asked briefly about my work, and I told her that most of my coaching centers around helping hard-working career women and executive…
“I don’t want to have to let go in order for him to come around,” I think to myself as I walk somberly down the street toward the grocery store. It’s been over a year of a slow-burning connection where I’ve been hopeful for more. But despite my patience, our declarations of adoration, and my…
The Uber pulls away and I’m at the front door of my building, ready to slip inside, kick off my shoes and call it a night. But the bartender I’d hung out with that evening has hopped out of the car too. I met him this past weekend at one of my neighborhood spots and…
Living in the moment is one of the hardest things for most of us to do. Boy, don’t I know it. And when it comes to dating, living in the moment is often met with a heaping dose of judgment reserved for the “playboys” and the “brazen little hussies” among us. We label it commitment…
I have a guy friend who knows how to play the dating game almost better than anyone I know. Funnily enough, I met him through a dating app. If you’ve been single for any length of time, you probably know the rules: Give a little but not too much. Wait 48–72 hours to text after…
“I want what you want.” It sounds sexy when you say it to someone who wants you back. When they want you to get what you want, too. But said to someone who isn’t showing signs of longing for you in the same way? Not so much. And yes, I’ve said it before. Maybe you’ve…
“So, your place or mine?” he texts me. We haven’t even been on a date yet. I met him once… twenty minutes at a coffee shop, four months ago. I’m a little thrown. I’d been open to the idea of a slow-burning friendship that maybe, just maybe, could unfold into something more. But this felt…
I’ve never thought of myself as much of a “habitual” person, even though, let’s face it, we all are. Good habits, bad habits, mindless ones we don’t even realize we’re doing… habits are just things we do often. But for a long time, I equated habits with discipline. And I’ve always hated that word. Discipline…
Hi! I'm Candis. I'm a Life Coach for modern women. I coach clients and share stories of love, healing, and the transformative power of stillness. Join me in slowing down, surrendering to the mystery of the moment, and reclaiming life, one day at a time.
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